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“The Beginning of the End of My Eating Disorder” Is Now Available!

“The Beginning of the End of My Eating Disorder” Is Now Available!

In her honest and open blog, Deborah Raphael delves into how, after dieting herself into an eating disorder, she got fed up with being hungry and miserable and decided to break free. This compilation of personal essays is the first in a series that explores the emotional and physical battles that arise with an eating disorder and the often frustrating journey towards recovery. Not only will this series provide a glimpse into the harsh world of extreme dieting and eating disorders, it will also reassure those who suffer that they are not alone in their fight.

In The Beginning of the End of My Eating Disorder, Deborah candidly describes her struggles with accepting her eating disorder and starting the recovery process. With the help of intuitive eating, seasoned professionals, and an ever-patient husband, Deborah starts on her journey of making peace with food and her body despite her reluctance to part with her eating disorder.

Included in this compilation are several questions and activities for readers to digest as they consider their own relationship with food and their bodies.

What Exactly Is Binge Eating?

What Exactly Is Binge Eating?

My eating disorder was multi-faceted. I restricted food, obsessed over my weight, and over-exercised, but one thing I never did was binge. Sure, I overate after a period of restriction, but I never binged in the traditional sense of the word. When I joined different online eating disorder groups, I noticed that people used “binge” loosely, throwing around the term when referring to going a little overboard with food.1 That would be like saying my restriction was akin to not eating until dinner was ready. It was so much more than that though and I knew bingeing would be no different. Curiosity got the best of me and questions began forming in my brain. Why does someone binge? What happens during a binge? What does it feel like afterwards? I needed answers and went to the best sources out there: the National Eating Disorders Association and those who have suffered through it.2

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Help! I Can’t Stop Eating!

Help! I Can’t Stop Eating!

 

Let’s do an exercise. Hold your breath for as long as you can. When you finally allow yourself to breathe again, what happens? The inhale is quite deep on the first breath and your body takes in as much air as it can. Each subsequent breath requires less and less air until eventually your breathing returns to normal. Now take this same process and apply it to dieting. Returning to regular eating is no different than returning to a regular breathing pattern. Our bodies initially inhale what seems like a huge amount of food, but then our food intake normalizes just like how our breathing did. This is exactly what happened to me when I finally decided to work on my relationship with food.

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Same Brand, Different Fit

Same Brand, Different Fit

I am not your typical girly girl. I don’t gush when someone gives me flowers, I haven’t gone anywhere near nail polish since my wedding, and I would rather clean my toilets than go clothes shopping. Memories of trying on dozens of pieces of clothing and only ending up with one, or even none, in my to-buy pile just squashes my desire to even walk into a store. It seems like each time I pick up a pair of pants in what I think is my size, it doesn’t fit! While some of this may be due to vanity sizing or my changing body,1 a good part of this comes from the frustrating fact that sizes are simply inconsistent.

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Can Intuitive Eating and Distracted Eating Coexist?

Can Intuitive Eating and Distracted Eating Coexist?

 

Mindful eating is a huge part of intuitive eating, and rightfully so. When you are in the moment and eating mindfully, you’ll be able to savor your food and really get in touch with your fullness. On the flip side, there is distracted eating. This often means eating in front of the TV or with your phone in your hand. Even though there aren’t any hard and fast rules with intuitive eating, distracted eating is definitely discouraged. I have a secret though.1 I eat with distractions sometimes…and, in certain instances, it can be surprisingly helpful!

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10 Years of Intuitive Eating

10 Years of Intuitive Eating

This is a guest blog post from Katcha, my friend and former Intuitive Eating Community Forum moderator. She has been practicing IE since March 2007 and has so much experience with it that I want to share some of her wisdom.

March 2017 marked the 10 year anniversary of the start of my intuitive eating journey. My first introduction to not dieting happened years before in the 1980s when I read all of Geneen Roth’s books and even attended one of her 3-day seminars. What I now know was missing from those initial efforts was the support I needed to understand and continue rejecting diet mentality and reconnecting with my own INner (body) wisdom.

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Free E-Book!!

Free E-Book!!

Greetings! Here is a free compilation of a few of my articles about my first steps towards recovery from an eating disorder. It also includes a brand new introduction!

Free E-Book!

Battling Buffets & Potlucks

Battling Buffets & Potlucks

 My husband and I recently paid his parents a visit. Well, this visit must have meant a lot to my mother-in-law because she really went all out. Rather than simply ordering a pizza, she laid out a whole spread for us. We had fruit, salad, cheese bread, and every single sandwich fixing you can think of. She even made apple cake for dessert! As I was eating, I started thinking about buffets. The meal at my mother-in-law’s house was far from what I would consider a buffet, but it was buffet-like in the sense that I had a variety of foods to choose from, some of which I don’t normally have on hand. Buffets, and even potlucks, can be hard for me because they’re so different than other types of eating experiences.

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My Friend, Maslow

My Friend, Maslow

I am going to nerd-out for a bit and show off some of my psychology background. Although I find it fascinating that Sigmund Freud did enough cocaine to kill a small horse and Jean Piaget had an obsession with mollusks,1 I’m going to talk about the comparatively boring, Abraham Maslow.2 Maslow came up with a hierarchy of needs pyramid to show how our more basic needs have to be addressed before our more complex needs. My goal has always been to work on reaching the higher levels of the pyramid so I could move towards my personal potential. The irony is that I thought dieting would help me get to that goal when it really only forced me to chip away at the foundation of my pyramid, making it increasingly unstable.

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Finding Fullness

Finding Fullness

Dieting messed with my fullness cues. Big time. Restricting made me ravenous and then I usually overate because I was just so damn hungry. This ruined my ability to identify comfortable fullness because I only knew what it felt like to be stuffed. It was either-or; there was no middle ground. Because I had ignored this sensation for so long, I forgot what it was like for gentle fullness to emerge.

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