Identifying Hunger

Identifying Hunger

 

Because I restricted food, one of the first intuitive eating principles I decided to tackle was honoring my hunger. Although apprehensive, I told myself that I would eat when I was hungry. It seemed easy enough. I’m hungry; therefore, I eat. It wasn’t that simple though. Because I denied myself food for so long and was used to being famished, the subtle feelings of hunger were completely foreign to me. Although I was born with the ability to identify hunger, I had to put some genuine effort into hearing those signals again.

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Food Flexibility and Practicality

Food Flexibility and Practicality

Diets are rigid. Each come with a set of rules to follow that include anything from a maximum number of calories per day to what/when to eat. Sure, it provides structure which can be a comfort to some, but life happens sometimes and structure goes by the wayside. For me, this is when the guilt and self-loathing would set in because I had failed my diet.1 The beauty of intuitive eating is that there are no rules. IE is a set of guidelines that allow for the flexibility and practicality around food that is required for the bumps in everyday life.

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Mindful Eating: The Satisfaction and the Shock

Mindful Eating: The Satisfaction and the Shock

When I read Intuitive Eating, I got really excited about enjoying food again. I was told that eating mindfully would allow me to have a richer and more satisfying eating experience. After years of depriving myself and the subsequent shoveling of food into my mouth, I was looking forward to eating in a peaceful and pleasurable way. Did that happen? Absolutely and it was downright amazing! But, oddly enough, mindful eating also caused the opposite to occur.

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Putting Weight Loss On The Back Burner

Putting Weight Loss On The Back Burner

As a member of the the Intuitive Eating Community Forum since July 2015, I have read a range of posts from people’s lowest, most dire times to those of success that then inspired others. Now that I’m the moderator, I am in charge of approving new forum members and reading all of their posts. Naturally, newcomers have many questions, but the most common question I hear is around weight loss while practicing IE.1 This is a valid question, but weight loss is far from the focus of intuitive eating.

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Releasing Food Guilt

Releasing Food Guilt

I was reading the newspaper1 the other day when a topic in an advice column caught my eye. A person posed a question about her diet and stated that she had eliminated dairy and bread because they’re unhealthy. My immediate reaction was to wonder why those would be considered unhealthy. Dairy has calcium and bread has a bunch of B vitamins. Then I remembered the fad diets that have been thrown at us, so the “unhealthy” label slapped on dairy and bread made sense. But are those foods really “bad”? If not, then are they “good”? Hell, should we even label them at all?

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Eating Past Fullness: It’s Not the End of the World!

Eating Past Fullness: It’s Not the End of the World!

When I quit dieting, there was a lot of leftover guilt about overeating because I was taught that eating the fewest amount of calories was “good” and overeating was “bad”. It was all very black-and-white. When I shifted from dieting to intuitive eating, I had to wrap my head around the idea that IE doesn’t have any rules. Overeating is not “bad”; it is just part of the eating experience. There is nothing inherently wrong with overeating, which meant that I could finally give up the idea that it was “bad” to eat beyond fullness.

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Almost In Denial

Almost In Denial

I had two major “Ah-ha!” moments in my recovery.1 The first one occurred as I was browsing the psychology section at my local Half-Price bookstore. I was looking for some books for my job as a school psychologist when Almost Anorexic caught my eye. I flipped through it and, although some parts intrigued me, I put it back on the shelf. Then I picked it up again. I thought to myself, “There is no way I’m anorexic. I’m just healthy and lean!” But when I had scanned through the book, I did see myself in some of the personal stories. I did obsesses about my body, food, and exercise. I decided to make the purchase. At the time, I told myself that I didn’t know why I was buying the book. I was not anorexic. Now that I look back, this book called to me for a reason. I think my subconscious knew something that my conscious mind didn’t.

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I Am an Emotional Eater. So Now What?

I Am an Emotional Eater. So Now What?

In the past, I always saw hunger as a physiological need. It was simple: hunger signals meant that I needed food.1 But there were times when my desire for food wasn’t accompanied by physical hunger. Determining that my hunger came from an emotional source rather than a physical source was not too difficult, but coming to terms with emotional eating and that it could somehow even apply to me was complicated. I have this desire to be strong and tough, so eating emotionally seemed too touchy-feely for me. Once I accepted the fact that I did eat emotionally, I thought to myself “Now what?” and began a quest of figuring out how to deal with this new challenge.

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Thank You For The Compliment…I Think

Thank You For The Compliment…I Think

As children we constantly observe the adults in our lives and learn from their modeled behavior. These observations provide us with information about a variety of life topics including how to act in social situations. When I was young, I learned the social rule of always mentioning someone’s weight loss, so every time I’d see someone looking a little slimmer, I’d smile and say, “You’ve lost weight!” This social rule wasn’t limited to compliments about weight. It extended to other areas of appearance as well. When I think about it though, these aren’t genuine compliments. Sure, people mean well, but is it really a good thing to offer such high praise for outward appearance?

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Reminder To Self: Dieting Is Awful!

Reminder To Self: Dieting Is Awful!

If you live in the modern world, dieting images are everywhere. Other than tribes that live deep in the rainforest, everyone is exposed to the diet industry’s marketing ploys. The promise of a radical life change if you only lose a few pounds is appealing. Want to feel more confident? Drop a dress size! Do you want the attention of that hottie you’ve had your eye on? Hurry to the gym to tone that tush! These ads are meant to draw you in so you fork over your hard earned money on empty promises. If you are someone who welcomes the newest diet, then the hardest part is just deciding which diet will be the flavor of the month. But if you have vowed to shun dieting, these ads can be particularly challenging.

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Intuitive Eating Tool Box

Intuitive Eating Tool Box

This is a guest blog post from Katcha, my friend and former Intuitive Eating Community Forum moderator. She has been practicing IE since March 2007 and has so much experience with it that I want to share some of her wisdom.

Because most people new to intuitive eating begin with heavy diet mentality thinking and habits, it can be challenging to switch to a more kinder and positive way of going about the changes needed to embrace the IE Principles and practices. Here is a list of what I consider to be good tools for beginning an IE journey:

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Am I Hungry, Thirsty, or Emotional?

Am I Hungry, Thirsty, or Emotional?

When I first started intuitive eating, I was hyper-vigilant. I was constantly thinking about what my body was telling me and over-analyzed every sensation. Was I hungry or thirsty or both? I never considered myself an emotional eater, so it never occurred to me that this may also be part of the equation. Another layer was added to my over-analysis when my therapist gently guided me to the realization that I was eating emotionally. Because I had ignored my body’s natural cues for so long, determining if I needed to drink something, eat something, or tend to my emotional needs was downright confusing.

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The Ripple Effect of Intuitive Eating

The Ripple Effect of Intuitive Eating

After working really hard these past few months, I declared today a “lazy day”. As I settled into my recliner and scrolled through my TV show options on Netflix, I thought about what I was in the mood for. Did I want to watch something I haven’t seen before like Santa Clarita Diet or an oldie but goodie like That 70’s Show? Perhaps a light comedy like Jane the Virgin would interest me? Or maybe something more dark and serious like Narcos or even Dexter? As I clicked on my show of choice,1 I realized that I based my decision not on any outside factors like whether or not there was a backlog of a certain show but on what appealed to me at that moment. It was all very…intuitive.

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How Long Does It Take To Become an Intuitive Eater?

How Long Does It Take To Become an Intuitive Eater?

As the moderator of the intuitive eating community forum, I notice that newcomers have a lot of questions. This is normal. They are exploring a new way of looking at food and their bodies, so a certain amount of uncertainty is to be expected. They want to know if they will struggle with diet mentality forever, so one of the most common questions is “How long does IE take?” If you are reading this, I assume you have the same question. Wanting to know a time frame for such an undertaking is understandable, but, unfortunately, there isn’t a clear-cut answer.

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A Lesson From an Avocado

A Lesson From an Avocado

I recently bought an underripe green avocado and set it out on counter to ripen. I picked it up a few days later to make my guacamole and it was…ugly. Instead of an even, black surface, it was a blotchy, brownish, dark green color. I hesitantly cut it open and, to my surprise, inside was the most beautiful, light green avocado flesh. It was soft and smooth and made a delicious guacamole dip. As I ate my chips and guac, the idea of how this avocado mirrors our society popped into my mind.

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Food Funk

Food Funk

The majority of my days come and go without any fuss. I get hungry, so I eat the food that appeals to me. It’s simple and straightforward. But every now and then I get into a food funk. I go through my mental checklist but with different results. Are you hungry? Yup! What do you want to eat? I’m not sure. Well, what sounds good? I have no idea.1 I see the irony in this. After years of depriving myself of food, the idea of finally allowing myself to eat but not knowing what I want is exasperating.

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To My Husband, With Love

To My Husband, With Love

Some people write their own wedding vows, but my husband and I went the traditional route. He responded with “I do” after being asked, “Do you take Deborah to be your wedded wife, to live together in marriage? Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor and keep her for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and forsaking all others, be faithful only to her, for as long as you both shall live?” The vows were heartfelt and lovely, but it wasn’t until I revealed my disordered eating to my husband that I understood the scope of those words.

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I Need Fat On My Body!

I Need Fat On My Body!

I was in my college anatomy and physiology class one day when we had a lecture on the different types of body tissues. This naturally included the discussion of fat tissue. The professor asked the class what we would think if we saw a tiger with its bones sticking out. We all agreed that the tiger was likely sick or starving. He nodded and then pointed out that when we see a tiger with meat on its bones, we see it as strong and healthy, but we barely think twice when we see a waif-like model walk the runway. So, if seeing the hipbones of an animal is cause for concern, then why is it acceptable for humans to take dieting to such an extreme that their bones protrude? It’s not! And that’s because, like animals, people need fat on their bodies!

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“When the Fat Girl Gets Skinny”

“When the Fat Girl Gets Skinny”

I was skimming through the intuitive eating community forum one day and came upon a post that included a link to a video on YouTube. It was only a few minutes long. I had a few minutes, so I figured “Why not?” Within a few seconds of watching this video, I knew I had stumbled onto something. As the video played, I found myself nodding in understanding and empathy. I could identify with almost everything that was said. That evening, I made my husband sit down and watch this video with me. Even he was moved by the speaker’s strong and passionate words. I am referring to Blythe Baird’s “When the Fat Girl Gets Skinny” video.

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Giving Myself Permission To Eat

Giving Myself Permission To Eat

 

During my dieting years, food was my enemy. We started off as a friendly rivals but slowly transformed into fierce adversaries. We fought for years until I decided that enough was enough. When I finally told myself “To hell with dieting!”, my relationship with food slowly improved. Intuitive eating stresses that giving yourself unconditional permission to eat and legalizing all foods is an important step in making peace with food. When I implemented this concept, it seemed like a whole world of food options had become available to me. What was once forbidden became permissible. It was scary to allow myself to eat without strict rules, but I could sense that freedom from dieting was within reach and this was a crucial step.

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But I Just Ate!

But I Just Ate!

Have you ever been on a road trip and took a bathroom break only to feel the need to stop again 30 minutes later? Annoyed parents everywhere shake their heads at their kids while pulling over before the upholstery is ruined. Kids are notorious for this, but I’m an adult and this happens to me sometimes. Of course, I stop and take care of business before I go along my merry way. However, if I apply this circumstance to food, I would scoff at eating a mere 30 minutes after finishing a meal. If I don’t think twice about honoring my need to use the restroom, then why do I question my body when it’s hungry?

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I Gained a Pound!

I Gained a Pound!

There are two things you should know about me: 1) I sometimes blow things out of proportion and 2) I have a tendency toward pessimism. These qualities have always been part of who I am and I’m okay with that. Although I am now working on lessening their impact in my life, they played a major role in my thoughts and behaviors when I dieted. They were never more obvious than when I stepped on the scale during my morning ritual and saw that I had gained weight.

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Journaling

Journaling

Many people use journaling as a form of expressing and reflecting on their feelings. It can be used to explore ideas or clear your head of mindless clutter. Journaling can also be a written record of your life. But can journaling help you make progress with intuitive eating? Yes….and no.  I explore this in “To Journal or Not to Journal?

My “Why I Am Awesome” List!

My “Why I Am Awesome” List!

Like everyone, I have “good” days and “bad” days. Some days I feel like nothing can go wrong and other days I feel like getting out of bed is a chore. When I feel good and my mood is elevated, I can easily come up with nice things to say about myself. When my mood is low, I often lose sight of those positive traits even though they’re still there underneath it all. I decided to create a list as a way to document the qualities that make me who I am. Without further ado, here is why I am awesome!

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My Body: A Marvelous Machine

My Body: A Marvelous Machine

Have you ever injured your pinky finger and then realized how much you actually use that finger? This recently happened to me when my pinky finger became a little too intimate with the stove. Immediately after the injury, I thought to myself “Oh, it’s just my pinky finger. No big deal!” As I healed over the next few days, it became glaringly obvious just how much I rely on that small part of my body. It’s like whenever I’m injured, I am always reminded that every part of me serves a purpose and that I frequently take my body for granted.

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The Clean Plate Club

The Clean Plate Club

As a dieter, I had oodles and oodles of food rules. One such rule was that wasting food was a no-no. This meant I had to eat everything that was on my plate and I had to make sure food was eaten before it spoiled…even if I didn’t want it! To a non-dieter, this probably sounds a little cuckoo. Normal eaters listen to their fullness cues no matter how much food remains on the plate. They also make decisions about what to eat based on what sounds good rather than by an expiration date. I eventually broke this food rule by reflecting on my history and slowly making changes.

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Mourning: An Unexpected Part of Intuitive Eating

Mourning: An Unexpected Part of Intuitive Eating

When I think of the word “mourning”, I imagine a weeping widow wearing all black or someone bursting into tears upon hearing a song a loved one once adored. Of course, mourning can be defined as deep sorrow after someone has died, but it also has a more general meaning of sadness after a loss or disappearance of something. I never thought it would be part of my intuitive eating journey, but, as time went on, I found myself in mourning with respect to my body and to food.1

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Why Am I So Hungry Today?

Why Am I So Hungry Today?

Yesterday I seemed to be hungry all day. It lasted from breakfast until my head hit the pillow at night. It was like I could not get enough food in me to soothe my hunger pangs. I certainly acknowledged that I was hungrier than most days, but I accepted it and ate accordingly. In the past, this would have made me feel very uncomfortable because my M.O. was to eat as little as possible and raging hunger would have seriously derailed that. Now that I have been an intuitive eater for a while, it didn’t faze me.

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My Clothes Don’t Fit Anymore!

My Clothes Don’t Fit Anymore!

One of the hardest things I had to do after practicing Intuitive Eating for a while was come to terms with the fact that my clothes would fit differently. I had hoped that my lean figure was my natural weight, but deep down I knew that it wasn’t. Because I was underweight and heavily restricting food, putting on some weight once I began to eat according to my body’s signals made sense. As predicted, my clothes began to slowly become tighter and I needed to start thinking about purchasing some new outfits to fit my slightly softer but much healthier frame.

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Numbers, Numbers Everywhere

Numbers, Numbers Everywhere

My first new car was a MINI Cooper. Once I drove it off of the showroom floor,1 I began seeing Coopers everywhere I went. It’s wasn’t like the number of Coopers on the road suddenly increased once I purchased my own, but my awareness of them certainly did. Something similar happened when I began my intuitive eating journey. The diet culture teems with numbers, but it wasn’t until I began to remove myself from that world did I become aware of just how prevalent and influential those numbers were in my life.

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Body-Appreciated Food

Body-Appreciated Food

When I tell people that I don’t eat chocolate, their expression goes from shock to sympathy within seconds. When I explain why, the shock transforms into understanding, but the sympathy remains. Chocolate is the classic comfort food, but my body does not seem to like it much. Because I am choosing to not consume this food, does that mean I’m restricting and back to my old dieting ways? 

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You Can’t Tell Me What To Do!

You Can’t Tell Me What To Do!

You know the phrase “terrible twos”, right? It’s around age two when children seem to have a fondness for the word “no” and are prone to throwing tantrums. During this time, they are exploring self-sufficiency and free will with the ultimate goal of autonomy.1 In general, people want to be autonomous, meaning they want independence and will naturally resist being controlled by others or outside forces. This idea ended up playing a huge role in the path I took when trying to overcome my disordered eating as well as in my professional life.

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It’s All Just Body-Shaming!

It’s All Just Body-Shaming!

Fat-shaming is a hot topic right now, but I recently read an article about how skinny shaming is an issue too. Although the article was well written, there was a barrage of negative comments about how skinny-shaming is no where near the same as fat-shaming. I actually agree with this. The social stigma with being fat does not compare to that of being skinny. But this leads me to the bigger question of why is body-shaming in any capacity acceptable?

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Good (Or Not-So-Good) Intentions of Others

Good (Or Not-So-Good) Intentions of Others

I recently watched an old episode of “Weeds” and there was a scene where Celia is watching her daughter, Isabelle, play a soccer game. Isabelle runs over to her mother to celebrate a good kick and Celia pats her stomach and says “I want to see more running out there, Isabelly. That’s what burns the fat!” Though the early seasons of Weeds has many great scenes, this one hit close to home given my history with body image issues. When I first saw this scene, I wondered if Celia was trying to motivate Isabelle to lose weight for her sake, her daughter’s sake, or if Celia had an altogether different intention.

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Back Off Man, I’m an Intuitive Eater!

Back Off Man, I’m an Intuitive Eater!

I have a weird relationship with apple pie. It smells great when it’s fresh out of the oven, but it doesn’t taste as good as it smells.1 I kindly tell people this when they offer me a slice. Most look at me like I’m bonkers and bewilderedly shake their heads before moving on. Every now and then I’ll come across someone who insists that I eat the pie. I politely yet firmly refuse again. Most take the hint, but some keep urging me to eat. I hate being in this predicament because I don’t want to eat the pie, but I also don’t want to be completely rude to my host.

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Forbidden Foods Are In My House…EEK!

Forbidden Foods Are In My House…EEK!

Does this sound familiar to you? You love cookies1 and feel you have no restraint around them. You tell yourself that if you have them in the house, you’ll eat them until they’re all gone. You know that you will end up feeling stuffed, physically uncomfortable, guilty, and ashamed. So, what do you do? You vow to never have that food in the house again!! That should be the end of it, right? Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. Your body and mind will know that it’s being deprived of a certain food and want it that much more. You’ll cave, buy a bag of cookies, and end up overeating them. It seems like a cruel joke, but your body really is smarter than you and is simply reacting to deprivation.

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Emotional Effects of Self-Bullying

Emotional Effects of Self-Bullying

As an educator, I had to constantly be on the lookout for bullying. Whether I saw it with my own eyes or if it was reported to me by my students, I had to make sure it was brought to the attention of the administration. Not that bullying didn’t happen when I was younger, but everyone is more aware of it now and schools are diligent in addressing it. There are anti-bullying assemblies and follow-up mini-lessons in the classrooms. Bullying is even considered a suspendable offense if it happens after school hours if it’s between two students. This makes me wonder something. If bullying is such a big deal when it occurs between people, then why is it okay for us to self-bully?

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Freedom of Mind

Freedom of Mind

To some, dieting may seem overwhelming at first. You have to keep all of these dieting rules straight in your head. Is this a “bad” food or a “good” food? And that can change depending on the diet you’ve adopted this time around. If you’re on a low-fat diet, bacon is a no-no, but if you’re in the Atkins camp, bacon is on the “good” list! Then if you try the South Beach Diet, the “good” and “bad” lists keep changing depending on what phase you’re in. One minute all fruits are “bad” and the next, some fruits are “good”. Honestly, this makes my head hurt!

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Intuitive Eating Challenge: Dog vs. Cat

Intuitive Eating Challenge: Dog vs. Cat

I am a cat person. I am not not a dog person, but I just prefer cats. My most recent dogs have been pugs and I actually have a rescue pug right now.1 Over the years I have noticed something interesting while observing my pets around food. I would like to take a moment to compare my pugs to my cats in terms of their approach to food. So, without further ado, I would like to announce my pet-inspired Intuitive Eating Challenge!

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Refusing the Scale at the Doctor’s Office

Refusing the Scale at the Doctor’s Office

When I finally gave up the scale and put it in a dark corner of my closet, I thought that that would be the end the scale’s power over me. I had not anticipated being asked to step on a scale at a doctor’s office and the dilemma that ensued between wanting to do what my doctor asked and my personal decision to not be guided by the number on the scale.

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Pushing Down My Feelings With Food

Pushing Down My Feelings With Food

When I told my therapist that I wasn’t an emotional eater, she pretty much laughed at me.1 I didn’t see how I could be an emotional eater when I barely ate. When I did eat what would be considered a “normal” amount of food, it was simply because I was so biologically hungry that physiology trumped dieting rules. I read in books that people with disordered eating and eating disorders use food to deal with their emotions. Some emotions are tough to deal with, so people use food as comfort, a distraction, to numb themselves, or as punishment. I didn’t doubt what I had read, but it didn’t really register in my mind as something that might apply to me.

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Meditation? Isn’t That For Hippies?

Meditation? Isn’t That For Hippies?

When I used to hear the word “meditation”, hippies and sequestered monks came to mind. Never did I imagine that I would be open to the idea of meditation let alone practice it on a regular basis. I have found that not only am I now calmer and more relaxed,1 I have been able to use what I’ve learned to become a more intuitive eater.

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Supporting a Younger Generation

Supporting a Younger Generation

I worked at a local high school as a school psychologist for five years, and one aspect of my job was to provide counseling to students. Though students were often referred to me for depression and anxiety, I knew from being a teenage girl way back when that body image could be a possible root cause. I decided to start a body image counseling group because I knew there was a need based on my own experience as a teenager and just by hearing things being said in the hallways and on social media. I requested names of possible candidates for my group, sent out permission slips, and planned out the group’s weekly topics.1 Shortly thereafter, I gathered my group of seven girls in my office for our first session.2

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Is My Vegetarianism a Form of Dieting?

Is My Vegetarianism a Form of Dieting?

I became a vegetarian in 2013 because I no longer wanted to be a hypocrite. I would wipe away tears after watching videos about factory farming and the horrible conditions in which the animals lived before they ended up on my plate…but I’d still order the bacon cheeseburger and enjoy it. When it finally occurred to me that my actions directly conflicted with my feelings and beliefs, I looked at what I ate and how I could change that to find mental peace with what I consumed. This was in my dieting heyday and, at the time, I felt like it was completely for ethical reasons.

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Did I Just Refuse a Donut?

Did I Just Refuse a Donut?

I have been in education for well over a decade, and one thing that I have noticed at every single school site I’ve been at is the amount of treats readily available. And this goes beyond the hooray-it’s-Friday treats. I could enter the teacher’s lounge area any day of the week and find something to eat the majority of the time. Because teachers have such a sweet tooth,1 it usually wasn’t a veggie platter. When I first started dieting, I made it a rule to avoid the teacher’s lounge at all costs, especially on Fridays.

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The “Rule” of Three: Retraining Your Brain

The “Rule” of Three: Retraining Your Brain

I attended middle school in the early ’90s, and this was a time when the word “like” was inserted into our conversations. Like, a lot. It wasn’t used as a comparison or as a statement of preference; it was a filler like “um” or “uh”. I didn’t know if it was rampant across the country or just isolated to my middle school, but it was part of my reality. I learned it was bigger than my little world when Clueless came out in 1995.1

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Is This What Acceptance Feels Like?

Is This What Acceptance Feels Like?

Cottage cheese was injected into my upper thighs last night. A wee, mythical creature of sorts apparently snuck into my bedroom last night1 and ruined my thighs. I sat down today to put on my socks and glanced down at my thighs. What happened? I used to have smoother, thinner thighs. Granted, my outer thighs have always had a bit of cottage cheese appear when I sit down, but it had crept to the tops of my thighs. I was appalled as I noticed more dimpled markings on my upper quads now. I immediately and frantically checked the rest of my body. Everything else looked relatively normal. Nothing cottage cheese-like.2 After breathing a sigh of relief, my brain immediately began going through all of the reasons of how this could have happened. Though I’d like to blame some kind of make-believe creature, I know that there is a logical reason for this change in my body.

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Post-It Therapy

Post-It Therapy

In my path towards healing, I incorporated something I call Post-it Therapy as a way to re-wire my brain with a visual reminder. Have you ever heard of people who want to lose weight taping “encouraging” notes to themselves to the refrigerator door so they don’t eat? Something like “Don’t eat that cake. You’ll ruin your diet and get fatter!” I always thought this was just cruel and stirred up a bunch of emotions around food for the person. I decided to combine the concept of this activity with a team-building activity I had to do before the start of the school year one year. I came up with my version of Post-it Therapy!1

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To Journal or Not To Journal?

To Journal or Not To Journal?

Many people use journaling as a form of expressing and reflecting on their feelings. It can be used to explore ideas or clear your head of mindless clutter. Journaling can also be a written record of your life. But can journaling help you make progress with intuitive eating? Yes….and no.

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Never Give Up! Never Surrender!

Never Give Up! Never Surrender!

When Galaxy Quest first came out, I didn’t understand why husband liked it so much. I am not a huge sci-fi fan, so all of the references were lost on me. But then it grew on me and over time it became one of my favorite movies. My husband and I now regularly insert various quotes from it in our conversations.1 One of my favorite quotes comes from Tim Allen’s character, Commander Taggart. His tagline from the Galaxy Quest tv show is “Never give up! Never surrender!” What starts off as a trite, overused line becomes a powerful phrase when the Thermians use it as their inspiration to stand up to the bad guy, Sarris. For me, the dieting industry was my Sarris. Once I realized this, like the Thermians, I needed to remind myself to never give up and never surrender when facing my opponent.

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The Veruca Salt Effect: I Want It Now!

The Veruca Salt Effect: I Want It Now!

Have you seen Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory? I’m talking about the classic Gene Wilder version from 1971, not the Johnny Depp version. 1 One of my favorite characters is Veruca Salt. I love the part when, upon entering the part of the factory where the golden geese are laying their golden eggs, she has a bratty tirade and then bursts into song about how she must have a golden goose…NOW! 2 I won’t spoil the ending for you if you haven’t seen it, but it does not end well for my beloved Veruca.

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Who Says I Can’t Eat Dinner at 4pm?

Who Says I Can’t Eat Dinner at 4pm?

I know that Downton Abbey has a hardcore fanbase. I did watch the first few seasons until **** died in a car crash, but it wasn’t one of my favorite shows out there. However, I can watch endless clips of Violet Crawley’s hilarious one-liners. My favorite was when the family was sitting down for dinner and someone mentions a weekend. Violet Crawley, in all seriousness, asks “What is a weekend?” She is so wealthy that she doesn’t need a job, so the idea of a weekend is completely foreign to her.

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The Scale: My Friend, My Foe

The Scale: My Friend, My Foe

If I told you that my waffle maker manipulated my mood, what would you think? What about a blender? Would that change your response? To me, it seems beyond insane that an object would be able to dictate my mood, but that is exactly what the scale did. It is just some plastic and glass, maybe couple of springs, but it had the power to cause such strong and rapid mood swings for me.

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Intuitive Exercise. The Other IE.

Intuitive Exercise. The Other IE.

Have you ever done the experiment of seeing how many drops of water you can get onto a penny? It’s quite amazing how many drops you can actually get on the penny before it overflows. This is a metaphor for my life. I am the penny and there are times in my life when the amount of water that I need to carry around is very manageable. These are my day-to-day activities: work, exercise, basic needs, quality time with my husband, etc. However, there are times when the water droplets keep piling on and the activities of life become more demanding. This happens to all of us, I know. I am not unique in this way. I want to share a very slow revelation of mine.

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Mirror, Mirror

Mirror, Mirror

The word mirror has several definitions. It can be a noun or a verb. The definition of a mirror that I will be using is a reflecting surface for use in viewing oneself.1 So,what is the purpose of a mirror? To take in how you look. I completely understand that this can be done without judgement. There are people out there who can look in a mirror and the thoughts that flow through their mind lack any ounce of judgement, not one speck. Raise your hand if you are one of those people? If you raised your hand, great! The mirror has no power over you. It’s just another object in your bathroom. It holds no more or less value than a tube of toothpaste.

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Take This Diet and Shove It!

Take This Diet and Shove It!

My mother is a fan of country music, so this meant that I grew up in the 1980’s listening to the local country radio station.1 I remember every Friday, promptly at 5 pm, the radio station would play Johnny Paycheck’s “Take This Job and Shove It” followed immediately by The Judds’ “Girls’ Night Out”. You may be wondering why I bring this up. What do these two songs have to do with dieting?  No worries, this will make sense in a few paragraphs!

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What Is This Intuitive Eating You Speak Of?

What Is This Intuitive Eating You Speak Of?

If you see or hear the word “diet”, there is a definition of sorts that may come to mind. Feelings may popped up as well when you are exposed to that word. And I’m not talking about the definition that indicates the types of food you consume. I’m talking about diet as in my-New-Year’s-Resolution-is-to-go-on-a-diet kind of diet. If the word “diet” exists, then there should be an opposite concept, right? Well, what would be the antonym for “diet”?

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